Let me begin with a back story. At the end of September, I had my gallbladder removed. I had been in a ton of pain most of the summer and was throwing up constantly. The doctors decided that my gallbladder needed to be removed. While they were removing it, the doctors fixed an umbilical hernia that I had. Therefore, I was not supposed to lift anything over 10 pounds the first week and nothing over 20 pounds the next 3 weeks. My son is 24 pounds.
At the beginning of this week, I was talking to a co-worker about how my husband and I need to wake up about 30 minutes earlier in order to get everything done. Ben wakes up Jaiden and starts feeding him while I take a shower and while Ben showers, I finish feeding Jaiden. After getting ready for the day, he picks Jaiden up and changes him and makes lunches while I get ready. Ben really has been required to do a lot in the mornings to make up for me not being able to help much. And after telling this to my coworker, she told me I was so lucky I wasn't a single mom and had a husband who was willing to do all of that.
Lucky?...
Of all the things to tell me I am lucky about, that is not anywhere on my list. I think I am lucky to have so many things. I am lucky I have found a wonderful husband. I am lucky to have a good job in a good school district. I am lucky to have a happy and healthy son. But am I lucky that I am not a single mom? I don't think so.
Let me start by saying that there are many reasons women are single moms. I am just addressing those who have unprotected pre-marital sex and then complain about it. I am not lucky, I am just not stupid. I didn't have unprotected sex with a person I wasn't married to.
I know there are people who are single parents and it was not their choice nor could they have done anything differently about it. But, when you could have chosen not to have sex with a person, don't tell me how lucky I am. I am not going to feel bad about the good choices I made.
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